The Top 40 Things I Learned In 2011

By

Vince Del Monte, WBFF Pro Fitness Model, Certified Fitness Trainer
and Nutritionist and author of No Nonsense Muscle
Building.

For the past few years I’ve been compiling a top things I learned list and it’s that time of year.  Just like last year I broke up my top forty list into four categories that I’m extremely passionate about and they all start with the letter Mmuscle, manhood, marriage and money. Lots of personal reflection that I’m sure will resonate home.

Looking forward to your comments afterwards… which one stood out to you?  What did you learn in 2011?

Top 10 Things I Learned About Muscle (& Fat Loss):

1. It is possible to build lean muscle mass while in a caloric deficit.  My preparation for the WBFF World Championships proved it. Optimization of your hormones via training, nutrition, supplementation & recovery is the key. In short, if every variable of your approach is PERFECT, be prepared to surprise yourself.

2. It’s almost impossible “to lose muscle mass” until you reach the 4-6% body fat range.  Don’t get caught up in fear-based marketing. The only time you can lose muscle is when you’re body is demanding more energy than your body can supply. Avoid “extremes” and you’ll be fine. 

3. The ABSOLUTE most important component of your training is LEARNING HOW TO SELECTIVELY RECRUIT THE TARGET MUSCLE THROUGH A FULL RANGE OF MOTION.  You must be able to FEEL the muscle. Initiate from the working muscle. Use Ben’s Intentions. Control the weights. TENSION TENSION TENSION!  Sound familiar?

4. The best “cheat day” strategy is two half-days a week for building muscle & losing fat. Thursday from noon till midnight and Sunday from noon till midnight is when Vinny lives like a true Italian! The rest of the week is perfect so I’m able to grow while staying lean.

5.  The absolute best time to build new lean muscle is immediately after a week or longer of being in a caloric deficit. This is coined  The Anabolic Amplifier Effect (by Lee Hayward and I) and also known as the “Rebound” effect, which is fully explained in 21 Day Fast Mass Building. Your body is primed for massive anabolic activity when you transition from a cut phase to a bulk phase.

6. The Meats & Nuts Breakfast is the best dietary tip for optimal body composition, energy and mental focus.  The meat allows for a slow and steady rise in blood sugar. The nuts provide a great source of healthy smart fats that allows the blood sugar to remain stable for an extended period of time. Rotate your meat and nut sources. Here’s my typical breakfast: 8 oz of extra lean beef, 2 organic eggs, 2 cups of spinach, coconut oil (mix all together) and a handful of nuts.

7. Specialization training is the key to balancing out your physique and you can prioritize two body parts at a time. I focused on brining up my shoulders & back in in 2011 by training them on Monday and Friday.

8. High volume body weight training works!  In prep for World’s, Ben Pakulski (my coach), had me do 50 variations of chin-ups and pull-ups each morning alongside 200 push-ups (in mini sets and with different hand positions).  I did this about 5-6x a week in the morning alongside my stretching, cardio and abs! I didn’t win Worlds but I think it’s safe to say my back and chest development were superior to all my competitors.

9. MI40 is HANDS DOWN the most bad-ass muscle-building program of 2011! NOS!  Intentions! 40 days. 40 second sets. 40 second recovery. If you don’t own Ben Pakulski’s MI40 System, are you CRAZY?!

10. What gets measured, gets managed. I’ve been preaching this ALL YEAR LONG.  Trying to build muscle & lose fat without tracking your workouts and diet is like trying to get out of debt or save money without looking at your bank statements. It’s RIDICULOUS.

Top 10 Things I Learned About Manhood:

11. We need to revolve our life around three phases: GRIND time… PRIME time… & UNWIND time. Grind time is the stuff that just has to get done – working, keeping the home clean, errands etc.  Prime time is the 2 hours in your day dedicated to your BIG GOAL. If you’re starting a new business, the time you spend BUILDING the business is prime time. And Unwind time is when you disconnect and close your laptop and mobile and connect with your friends and family. Or it’s time spent resting and relaxing.

12. It’s not how many times you get knocked down but how you get back up. This past year I got attacked by haters on You Tube, which resulted in over 85 of my videos being “Rejected for inappropriate content” although these were purely “how to” videos.  I could have sat and cried but I searched out alternative solutions.

13. Treat people like people, not like projects.  Cherish the relationship, not what you might get out of the relationship. People hate being treated like projects.

14. Pleasing your wife is pleasing to yourself. Or, making your wife happy leads to you being happy. Married guys know what I’m saying 🙂

15. A real man does not cheat on his girl.  Being tempted is NORMAL. Cheating is not. Giving in to sexual temptation is for the WEAK. If you struggle with sexual temptation, read this book: Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker.  Get some accountability.  This battle is NOT won alone.

BONUS NOTE: Porn addition will DESTROY YOUR LIFE (slowly).  Get help here: http://www.xxxchurch.com/

16. When a man gets caught checking out another women he does not rationalize his “bad habit” by saying, “Every guy does it…” Instead he says, “I’m sorry. You’re hotter. I’ll do better.” (Yes, I’m human and guilty of this too)

17. A real man does not compare himself to other men and make excuses for living “below par.”  He does not say, “Every guy struggles with this…” He OWNS it. He STRIVES to do better.  Strive for progress, not perfection.

18. Real man know how to take a REST. “Go, go go…” is not always honourable. It’s amazing to be able to unplug and enjoy the MOMENT without wondering who’s emailing and texting you.

19. It’s CRITICAL to make time for “your boys” a.k.a. your close male friends. Schedule time to work out together, go on an adventure, talk about life and struggles, grab a drink, go to a sporting event, play on a team or serve together.

20. Invest in someone younger than you. Who looks up to you?  Where can you be a role model? How can you serve someone who needs you?

Top 10 Things I Learned About Marriage:

21. You can either be right or happy.  You can’t be both.  LOL  But seriously, know when to swallow your pride.

22. The best way to have an argument is with my hand on my wife so reassure her that everything is okay.

23. LISTENING helps. If you expect respect from your girl, show her respect first.

24. It’s never “the issue” that is the issue.

25. If it hurts the one you love, whether it makes sense or not, STOP IT!

26. Leave the iPhone at home when we go out on dates. No one wants to fight for attention with a “third wheel”.

27. Go to bed with your wife (at least 5 out of 7 nights).

28. The couple that plays together, stays together. Continue to do life together.  Flavia and I regularly go to the movies together, workout together, cook together and get dressed up for each other for “hot dates!”  Basically we continue to do the same things that we did that lead us into marriage.

29.  Associate with positive couples.  Protect your relationship from negative influences.

30.  Don’t run away during an argument. This is when she needs you the most.

Top 10 Things I Learned About Money:

31.Your beliefs about money will determine how much you receive and or retain.  If you have limiting or negative beliefs about money, your ability to create/attract income and or your ability to to effectively retain that money will be limited by those beliefs.

32.  You have in life now what you deserve and desire to have. Your physical reality reflects your mind’s reality.  Your sub-conscious beliefs will dictate your current financial situation.

33. Modern economy is based on consumes spending more money.  Be aware of today’s mentality of, “If I don’t have this product, you’re lacking in life.” This mentality will lead to spending, spending, spending. Start reading less newspapers and watching less TV to be less influenced by this marketing.

34. Your income is based on THREE THINGS – the value you place on yourself, the value you provide others and how you market yourself.

35. It’s not what you make, it’s what you keep!  Just because someone makes a million dollars a year does not mean they keep it. Don’t get caught up in people bragging about how much they make, most of the times they are in worst shape then you think. (Even celebrities).

36. Pay yourself first and implement the Rockefeller Rule. (10% to saving, 10% to investing, 10% to giving and then 70% on yourself). Always dedicate a FIXED amount each month to saving and investing and restrict your standard of living to what you have left.

37. Continue to give at least 5% of your income to a charity of some kind. This past year Flavia and I supported three causes – NationWares.com, CompassionCanada.ca and HopeForTheSold.com

38. A quote from Dan Kennedy, “You either believe, like me, that because 1% of the people are rich that ANYONE can get rich, or you believe, like many others, that because 1% are rich that NO ONE can get rich. Don’t let self-limiting beliefs hold you back.”

39. Eating out is EXPENSIVE and addicting. Be careful.

40.  Recognize you are blessed- whatever your current situation. There are tragedies all over the world and a good percentage of people are living in a hellish nightmare right now.   Remember that everything you have is a gift from above and that it can be taken away just as quickly as it was given to you.  Be grateful and LIVE LARGE with what you have been given.

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I hope you enjoyed that….   I believe that we should ALWAYS BE LEARNING & GROWING so this was a fun review. Thank you for reading. I have been doing this on my website since 2006 and it’s a very reflective time for me.  I would love to hear which one stood out to you and what you learned in 2011.  Leave your comments below.

Vince Del Monte

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101 thoughts on “The Top 40 Things I Learned In 2011

  1. I would like to thank you for the efforts you’ve put in writing this blog.

    I am hoping to check out the same high-grade content from you later on as well.
    In fact, your creative writing abilities has encouraged me to get my own blog now ;
    )

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  2. First off I want to say fantastic blog! I had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you do not mind.
    I was interested to find out how you center yourself and clear your mind before
    writing. I have had a hard time clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out there.
    I truly do enjoy writing but it just seems like the first 10
    to 15 minutes tend to be wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any
    suggestions or hints? Appreciate it!

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    • I find a simple meditation practice works great for doing this. I’m not talking about mumbo jumbo stuff. It’s quite an accepted practice for serious athletes.

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  3. Awesome post Vince. Inspirational stuff. At the moment I am struggling with the daily rigmarole of life- studying, cooking, cleaning, training (repeat) etc. Finding the right balance and structure for prime time, grind time, and unwind time is certainly a challenge!

    Love your stuff, keep it up!

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  4. great post Vince.

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    • Thank you Naveed

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  5. Nouriel Eshaghian January 5, 2012 at 4:10 am - Reply

    Wow Vince, I didn’t know you were so morally based. It’s nice to see SOME people still have their heads on straight when it comes to managing relationships and living life sensibly and responsibly. Many of the concepts you put forth here resemble those preached in Judaism, my religion, though judging by one of your videos you made with Kyle Leon, I’m guessing you’re a religious Christian. At least you know what you’re talking about!

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  6. Hi Vince, awesome blog and I do also hope you’ve learned more than just 40 things about our Savior the past year. I recently purchased your NNMB package after a year of saving up for it, and I can’t wait to get into the thick of it!God bless and have a happy new year! 😉

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  7. Great post from start to finish Vince! Thanks for all of the great tips to help me start the New Year off right. All the best to you in 2012!

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  8. Men i liked a lot the top things you learned about money and manhood.. For 2012 i hope you make a lot of articles about this two and muscle.. Hell of a job you’ve been doing all of this years, hope you keep the hard work on!.. Greetings from Panama

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  9. Vince,
    thanks for all your posts during 2011, Have a BIG NICE christmas time with your wife and your extended family!

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  10. awesome list, vinny!

    your quotes about manhood are very inspiring and i’m sure that i’ll be reading them from to time again

    merry christmas

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  11. thanks Vince great words of wisdom i like the way you see life and that your not afraid to grow in all areas of life! thanks for the great info over the year good luck for the future enjoy xmas sometimes its good to hear good advice ju to kee grounded and to remember whats important thanks again

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  12. # 15 and #36 stood out. # 12 too.

    #15-how insightful, but something we rarely stop to think about, at least I. Temptation is definitely all around us.

    #36-definitely adhering to one’s means and living within them keeps us out of financial disasters. And finding causes to help support makes us feel good. I have about 5 I regularly support.

    #12-I remember that issue…unfortunately, there are people out there who relish in causing trouble. Sad really. You did the right thing but coming up with “plan B” and moving ahead.

    Thanks for your reflections, Vince. Merry Christmas and a happy 2012 to you both.

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  13. Very insightfull. A lot of your views resonates the same views my late Dad had. I like mostly the one that my Dad had also ” a happy wide a happy life”. The one that floored me was the one that you said in an arguement with your spouse don’t leave , this is when she needs you the most.I’ll try and remember that one for sure . Lots of joy and peace in the New Year – Roger

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    • Hey Roger. Yup, tought to do but it helps! And you meant…

      Happy Wife, Happy Life 🙂

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  14. Some great information here. Never thought of meat and nuts for breakfast. Will give that a go. What you say about not losing muscle mass until you get to very low body fat levels makes sense. I think too many people worry about that. If you follow a sensible training regime you can diet right down without losing muscle.

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    • Losing fat is based on SUPPLY & DEMAND.

      The only time your body can not supply nutrients at the demand your body is requesting via training is when you’re doing something EXTREME i.e. extremely undernourished while extremely energy extended.

      Your body can only break down fat so fast…

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  15. Vince, Enjoyed reading your “40 Things Learned in 2011”. Great advice for everyone, no matter their walk in life. The Best to you and family this Christmas and throughout the New Year.

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  16. Wow, you supporting xxxchurch.com just earned you a mountain of respect from me. That’s definitely something that more people of influence need to get on board with. Good stuff.

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    • Thanks Ben. Spread the word.

      It’s a silent killer no one really talks about… Don’t be afraid to check out the site if anyone reading this and is “losing the battle within”

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  17. Vince, you’re a rarity. It takes a lot for me to believe in somebody. I seriously appreciate every word and understand where you are coming from. You’ve inspired me a good deal with all the legit info. I look 4ward to your next seminar.

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,
    Jake

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  18. Excellent thoughts! You have just increased your stature in my eyes by more than any amount of push-ups could ever do!

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  19. thanks vince, there are some real pearls in there. Keep up the good work.

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  20. Thanks Vince for sharing the things that you have learnt!

    It allow us to understand more to maintain relationship and lead a happier lifestyle.

    Have a great day!

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  21. Awesome list, Vinny. Your list inspired me to write one of my own in 2009. Think I’ll do another one this year…it will mostly jokes, with a few truths interspersed.

    Love you guys!

    Joel

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  22. Vince, you never cease to amaze me with your wealth of knowledge and love for humanity by freely giving it to us in many well versed areas.

    I have been following you for quite some time and still plan on buying no-nonsense ebook. Before I knew much about you I was deciding between you and Sean Nal, and I purchased Sean’s ebook but I knew yours was good too-it was a coin flip decision.
    You are trully an inspiration to all and a blessing.
    Sincerely, Lance

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  23. The one that got me is the hater one….you know “even Jesus had haters” …haha! Love that answer. Also your ‘Love and let Live – wishin peace to those’ is the right attitude! Great to see. To all the haters, trolls, hiding on internetz,

    “They see me rollin, they hatin” – i always think of this meme, makes me laugh. When you see peop

    why bro? be hatin’? remember what your mama said
    If you ain’t got anything good to say, don’t say it.

    peace, love and Feliz Navidad’s to everyone!

    G.

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  24. Great list Vince. Some simple but very powerful truths there. Thanks for sharing.

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  25. Great post Vince, Merry Christmas, and have a great New Year!

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  26. This was very helpful and I appreciate that you took the time to share these thoughts. Bodybuilding is muscle and fitness but it is also about the whole person.

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  27. Boooooooooooooooooooom…….. Thank you.

    $$$$ing awesome and congrats on your continual growth and excellence.

    anyway you could post your morning pushup+chin-up, cardio and ab ritual?

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    • Hey Matty… It’s very straight forward… Understand this advice is in CONTEST PREP mode while I needed to lose 2 lbs per week. KEEP THAT IN MIND…

      20 min of HIIT cardio m,w, f
      40 min of easy cardio t,t,s

      Then i would do 20 minutes of abs in circuits and then the pushups and pull ups in mini sets.

      That’s it.

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      • I assume this is in addition to your normal workout. If so, it didn’t interfere with the normal workout?

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  28. Great post enjoy reading your work, look forward to many more.

    Happy Christmas

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  29. Good stuff. I’ve learned that the process of manifestation consists of programing, thoughts, feelings, actions and results (T Harv Eker). You can change your life by changing your thinking (aka Napoleon Hill) and following through with a proven plan of action. This idea is transferable to virtually any aspect of life and I think dynamically echoed in your list above.

    Merry Christmas to you and yours. Peace and strength in 2012!

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  30. Awesome and honest as always Vince. I always look forward to getting these. It spurs me to reflect and then write out my own learnings and to encourage my friends to do the same. Then we exchange them with each other. I love that you strive to be a well balanced person, body, mind and spirit. I love reading the comments too. You have alot of people that really love and respect you Vince–that’s a beautiful gift in itself. Buon Natale to you and your Flavia.

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    • Thank you Domenic!

      It’s SO cool looking back on the last few years of posts… It’s a small habit that slows life down!

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  31. Awesome list. I receive emails from both you and Flavia and I have to say that I absolutely love your positive attitudes and honesty. I have Flavia’s workout and can’t justify buying any others because it seems to have everything I could need. Thank you both for all of the great things you’ve taught me since I subscribed! Merry Christmas.

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  32. Thanks for the reality check Vince!

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  33. I’ve read these post for a few years, and like many others, they’re always my favourite.

    This is my and my husbands first year as married. #14 cracked me up, since it summons a mantra my husband have repeated increasingly this year to his friends- “happy wife, happy life!” 😀

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  34. Beautiful advice. Thank you. I admit that I am a blimpophobe and I don’t touch commercial foods. That you can go as low as 4% body fat without losing muscle mass; just eat properly 6 times a day and don’t fast, is very helpful to all of us.

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  35. This was actually a nice idea. Inspired me to make my own list to reflect on, & to of course ultimately build on>

    Curious about the porn addiction though? How did you realize you had a problem? what problems was it causing you after many years of abuse!?

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  36. That was really awesome, insightful, and thought-provoking.
    Thanks Vince.
    Keep striving for greatness in all that you do.
    BP

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    • Thanks brother! I told Flavia, “Practically everything on that muscle list is what Ben taught me…” and Flavia says, “That’s because that’s what a good coach does!”

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  37. This was a great list. One thing that really stuck out to me though is the part about being tempted to cheat. That seems off especially being newly-weds. I have never wanted to cheat on my husband. He is my best friend and I know God gave me this wonderful person. I have no desire for anyone else. Your desire should always be for your spouse only. Maybe my point of view is different as a women.

    Merry Christmas to you and flavia.
    A very blessed new year too!

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    • Hi Heather. Appreciate your reply but you misinterpreted #15. Please re read it. No where does it say I’m tempted to cheat on my spouse. Merry Christmas to you too!

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  38. That was great. Lots of truth to what you learned and xxxchurch.com is such a great site. Been a fan of that site since highschool five 6 years ago.

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  39. Hello Vince, I just want to tell you that what you wrote is so inspiring, It was really usefull and very deep. Thanks for all the advises and specially on the relationships It is very good to know all these thing. Thanks again Vince and Happy Christmas!!!!

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  40. Great post as usual Vince. I think #11 and #18 stood out the most for me. Im constantly thinking about what I need to do for the year, when really I should a) go day by day, b) compartmentalize and not focus on 5 things at a time and c) fail to rest so I end up breaking down or being perpetually tired. I will learn to go hard, but unwind and have some outside pleasures in life. I always feel guilty about resting-but if I go hard at the times I am supposed to, it should be considered a reward. Happy Holidays

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  41. @Luciano Del Monte

    Well you know what they say. Once you are doing the right thing or something worthwhile you will always have haters. Jesus had many of them and he was crucified for it. They thought they had him but he said “they know not what they do.”

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  42. As Vinny’s ‘spiritual and life coach’, #12 hit me hard. Hard for me to believe Vince has ‘haters’. He’s constantly asking how himself and people around him, “How can I treat ‘my people’ better? How can I create products that will help people get better in all the areas listed above? I’ve learned over my 58 years of living that jealousy creates ‘haters’, and also that ‘hurt people hurt people.’ If any of the people reading my words here wrote the stuff that got Vince deleted, why don’t you be kind to yourself, and go to a therapist and treat yourself for your anger and jealousy. I mean that sincerely. Vince is a stand up guy as many of the comments above reflect. I’ve always taught my ‘kids’ to not hate back and not be venegeful, and that’s what makes me most proud of my son. He’s a lover of people not a hater. There’s lesson #41.

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    • so true luciano but my belief is things like this will not stay in the dark , what goes around comes around and in life today it is only me ,myself and i ,and i will do whatever to get what i want , now we can see vince example . thank you for the great work in your sons life

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      • thanks Nokkie. I love having my sons and their wives as my ‘best friends’. As a parent we not only raised sons but we also raised ‘lifelong friends’ who happen to be our adult ‘kids’. best wishes to you.

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        • yes luciano i got 3 girls and they with their husbands are our best friends and i am 3 grannys as well and yes we can look back and say we made mistakes a lot of them ,but surely we did something right as well and that is al that matters , i always say getting maried and racing kids are the biggest thing we are up to with no manuel

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    • Thanks Dad! Appreciate you always looking out for me. I agree with my dads advice… If you Have Anger Towards Everyone Achieving Success (definiation of a hater) make your life better… that disease will rot your soul.

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  43. Yes, I can’t agree more that we can build Muscle and loose Fat at the same time.

    Almost all the learnings are helpful and insightful.

    Thanks for sharing.

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  44. whaau for a woman who got married when i was 16 and were married 35 years on the 9th dec 2011 i can just say amen on everything ,thank you ,this is truly lessons from your life ,be blessed for this last days of 2011 and be blessed in God riches for 2012 in everything all aspects of you and flavia lives. keep on with the good work .

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  45. Great post Vinny, especially with regards to how we treat our wives. My respect for you has gone up several notches. Thanks and remain blessed.

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  46. Hi Vince. Great stuff man. All the best for you and your family. Merry christmas and a Happy New Year from Portugal

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  47. feliz natal felefidades parabems pelo carater
    poucas pessoas tem essa coragem

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  48. It is good to learn from you like active couple to be a sports person with family background. Good hints to have a happy married life. Surely everybody will get lesson from reading your 40’s valuable guidelines.

    Thanks very much.

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  49. Dear Vince ,
    It`s been nearly 3 years now since I found out about you and your story and I must say that I owe you a great deal of I am now . Not only that following you and using your adivce has given me great results and helped me find coaches to improve myself in different areas but you`ve always given me the will and motivation to be better in everything I do, to LIVE LARGE 🙂 . Right now I can say that I`ve kinda hit a low point of my life and here you are sharing one of the most inspirational and insightfull things I`ve read this year .
    In many times you have inspired me and given me hope so thank you for being there for me .
    You are a man of faith , honor and with character ,a rolemodel and an overall good person . Thank you again for everything and may God bless you and repay you for everything you do !
    My sincere thanks,
    Sorin

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  50. great..loved it.thank you for the great articles.
    love the muscle section and no.32.about Money
    have a wonderful Xmas

    love your articles!

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  51. Hey Vince,

    Where can i buy a live large t-shirt?

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    • None for sale… maybe next year…

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  52. @Ryu – Micheal Moore is a pesimist money whore , if you can believe you can achieve . You create your own reality . The reason Vince is so succesfull is because of his tough patern and belief

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  53. Right on brotha, Exellent post keep giving and livin large!! Im glad you know where all blessing comes from!

    Be blessed. Matt

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  54. Awesome post Tx for sharing

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  55. Vince, thank you for setting life ‘in order’ – for those like me who ocassionally feel disarrayed/disillusioned/de-motivated.

    Thank you for helping me learn not just in the gym but outside of it too.

    Warm Regards,
    Kapil.

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  56. wow, so you agree with Dan Kennedy about michael moore who stands up for the rights of the underprivileged and the poor who have been screwed over by the 1% that u seem to worship is a big fat dope. u know that big fat dope stands up for justice and challenges power with his big belly than u can ever with your 20 inch biceps. cant believe i actually listened to ur bullshit for a whole year. count me out

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    • Ryu I think that your comment is quite harsh.
      Vince, from what I can read, is stating that optimism is the way forward, and that you should not take the advice that “if 1% of the population is rich then no one else can be”.
      The advice that he is giving is to the exact opposite of this, stating that “if 1% of the population are rich, then its possible” Thats the correct mentality, and anyone who enforces anything else onto people should be looking at themselves. Everyone can be anything they want, its all about work ethic and belief. Its not about picking a side, like you are doing. Have a Merry Christmas, and I hope you take on what Vince has shared.

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    • Hi Ryu. Notice that was a QUOTE by Dan Kennedy which I agree with minus the part about Michael Moore – I actually like his movies and having nothing against Mr. Moore.

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    • After 40 helpful and personal insights you found one to dwell and make your decision on. Good luck.

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    • I think you need to take a step back and look at yourself in the mirror Ryan. If you’re so angry instead of blasting Vince for something has nothing to do with what’s going on around the world… GET OFF YOUR LAZY COMPLAINING BUTT AND GO DO SOMETHING THAT IMPACTS AND CHANGES OTHER PEOPLES LIVES. Or you can just be a QUITTER that stands for NOTHING.. Hope this sheds some light.

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  57. Very very nice Vince…I have read a couple of “Things I learnt in 2011” posts, but your post stands alone…I agree with most of them…kudos…these posts are actually more important to me than some of the fitness tips I see in my inbox 🙂 Merry Christmas, and a better year to you…

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  58. I respect you know as both a trainer and a philosopher – 2 ingredients for a true mentor.

    Lee Clark (fellow PT, athlete)

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  59. That is quite an impressive list and I would like to say Bravo!!

    Very well done. I just recently started following you and am very glad that I have.

    Looking forward to future posts!

    BTW: You said you have been doing this since 2006. Is there any chance that you could post the links to the past years? I would really like to check them out as well.

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  60. Hi Vince,
    There’s some really good information in that which has made me think a lot.

    Thanks
    Have a great Christmas everyone
    Matt B 🙂

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  61. Very inspiring Vince! Looking forward to more posts in the upcoming year! 🙂

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  62. Hi Vince
    I doubt I have ever been as profoundly moved as I was by your post. Your attitude to women in general and your wife in particular is quite amazingly wonderful….and that is the understatement of the year.What a lucky lady your Flavia is to have a husband like you. Don’t suppose you would like to come downunder to Oz and show the average Australian man what it’s all about would you !! Meanwhile please have a happy and Holy Christmas and a successsful and prosperous year in 2012.Keep up the good work. I greatly admire and respect you for your values
    Cheers

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  63. WOW! You hear many inspirational quotes but you Vince have hit so many chords with your words of wisdom.Truly inspirational – thank you and thank you for being YOU.

    You and Flavia are both honest and refreshing people and that is so rare today – can’t wait to see what you both get up to in 2012.

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  64. Amazing. Thoughtful. Lucid. Inspirational. Thank you Vince.

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  65. You hit it out the base ball field Vince! Here’s my 2011 words to describe you and how you have changed my life and taught me so much:

    MENTORING, FRIEND, MOTIVATOR, INSPIRING, PUSHING, COMPASSIONATE, OPEN-MINDED, ENTREPRENEUR, THOUGHTFUL, HARDWORKING, HONEST, TRANSPARENT,UNSTOPPABLE,DETERMINED, SUPPORTIVE, HUMOROUS, ACCOMPLISHED, GROWING, ENABLER, CONQUEROR!

    I can’t wait to meet you and Flavia in person at the business summit and treat you both to a free meal :). I bet shes going to dominate the show!

    your friend,

    Travis

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  66. Fantastic post – I’m proud of you.

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  67. Vince, you knocked it out of the park with this one. I always enjoy your end of year (yearly) “what I learned” posts. I particularly like the last one about gratitude.

    Any way you slice it, we’re all blessed.

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  68. Awesome post and thanks for sharing it. It made me think about a few important things and as the year comes to a close, it is really important to look back to the lessons we have learned and the mistakes made, so that we can be better people.

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  69. GREAT POST Vince! More helpful than ANY workouts and or blogs that I’ve seen ALL year. I have a newfound respect for you. Mele Kalikimaka, (Merry Christmas)to you and yours, Peace and blessings.

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  70. Vince,
    Awesome post and quite real and to the point! Your points in manhood and marriage are bang on.

    Merry Christmas, Happy holidays and Happy New Year!

    Thanks for sharing.

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