NOTE: This post was published on Feb 9th, 2009 and contained a photo with myself and four females who were dressed very inappropriately all comments until June 15, 1010 reflect the picture that used to be above. The picture was with me and 4 “hot” girls to add impact to my blog post below. In 11 days, I’ll be marrying the love of my life, Flavia, who is the beautiful girl in the picture with me on the day I proposed to her in Punta Cana (on my 30th birthday – sweet b day gift eh?!). I’m far more proud of what I have above than what I had below. Now enjoy the post… it’s one of my most popular ones ever!
I am going to be frank with you.
In return, I ask you to be frank with me.
No B.S. I have been in the fitness world, managing fitness clubs, selling personal training, selling gym memberships and personal training for more than six years, so I’ve asked (literally) thousands of new members about why they work out.
My radar is fully dialed in to sniff out any B.S. answers. Ready?
What motivates you to work out?
Why in the world do you bother lifting weights? Why would any person bother going to a gym?
If you said anything to the extent of “improve my blood pressure,” “relieve stress,” or “set a good example,” I’m not buying it. I call these logical motivators. There is nothing wrong with those motivators and I agree they are excellent benefits – but let’s get real. I asked you to be frank with me. You don’t hit the gym multiple hours a week to improve your health profile.
You work out for emotional and irrational wants and fears.
You work out so you can attract an attractive person. Let’s face it, sexy people date sexy people. This requires you to have a physique that looks good in clothes, and looks even better naked.
I think every man knows, that to some degree “bigger is better” in the hunt for improving your body for physical attraction. And make no mistake about it, the underlying message of every media message is “the better you look” the more action you get from the ladies… plain and simple.
Guess why the message, “get laid this weekend” is spread more often than “optimize your cholesterol score”? Because emotional reasons tug on your heart string and your heart string is attached to your wallet.
I am all for getting you to discover your irrational motivators if the benefit is for your long-term gain.
It’s true…the combination of well-proportioned muscle mass and minimal body fat is a sign of reproductive fitness and shows that you have more testosterone than the other guy (even if you don’t). I don’t care how many “art of attraction” books you’ve read – if she’s looking for an adrenaline rush ride in a sports car and you look like a beaten down Pinto, then it doesn’t matter what you do or say, she’s not going to be interested.
Admitting That Looking Good Naked Is Your Motivator Is Not The Point Of This Post…
If we took a survey I am confident that looking good naked and hooking up is the most irrational and emotional desire that someone has for working out. I know people work out for other reasons but I would declare this the winner. Bare minimum, you want the most attractive lady at your work or school to think of you as the “go-to-guy” when she needs someone to help her move her furniture.
What Is An Irrational and Emotional Motivator?
Here are some examples:
- Not having girls notice you while you walk through the club, but grab you.
- Being able to wear whatever style of clothes you wish.
- Having girls tell their girlfriends, “Insert your name here… show my girlfriends your abs!”
- Hooking up with different girls every night of the week.
- Avoiding embarrassment at the staff pool party.
- Arms that rip the sleeves of your shirts and a chest that makes your top button pop off.
- Comments like, “OMG…check him out!”
- Not dying early so you can travel with your grandchildren.
- Intimidating guys to move out of the way when you walk by.
- Having others secretly jealous of what you have.
- Never having someone disagree with your point of view out of fear.
Logical Motivators For Working Out
- Improve your health.
- Less stress.
- Build Muscle
- Good role model.
- Balanced lifestyle.
- Clothes fit better.
- More energy.
You see the difference? Sure, the irrational wants (compared to fears) are conceited and superficial. I get it. But guess which individual gets better results? The person motivated by irrational motivators or logical motivators? Irrational, hands down every time. The secret to achieving a first rate body is to figure out the true WHY – which is always an irrational fear or want.
Here’s how to figure out your irrational want:
1. Ask yourself, “Why do I work out?” If you said, “To feel better…” then ask the same question to your answer.
2. Ask yourself, “Why do I want to feel better?” If you said, “To be more productive at work…” then ask the same question to your answer.
3. Ask yourself again, “Why do I want to be more productive…” So that I get a job promotion and earn a bigger salary. Continue the pattern…
4. “Why do I want to get a bigger salary?” So that I can provide for my child’s education so they can have a future.
Notice how your reason for working out went from a very logical to emotional fear and want the more you asked why? The more honest you are with yourself, the faster you’ll get to your true reason why you work out.
Your why will be the difference between success and failure. This is a topic rarely discussed in the bodybuilding world and can create unstoppable motivation by uncovering the truth about yourself. There is no right or wrong answer. I only ask that you be honest with yourself. Now it’s your turn.
I want you to ask yourself, “Why do I really work out?” until you discover your irrational and emotional want or fear. You might be very surprised to discover the real reason and what you really want. This exercise might take you a few minutes.
If you’re comfortable with sharing, in one sentence, state the emotional and irrational why behind your motivation for working out. What do you really want or what is your greatest nightmare?
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