Live Systematically Outrageous!

By Vince Del Monte, WBFF Pro Fitness Model, Certified Fitness Trainer and Nutritionist and author of No Nonsense Muscle Building.

It’s 3:09 am and I am in the LAX airport waiting for my 7:10 am flight back to Buffalo and thought I would share a section of notes from a 5-day training I did in LA called Advanced Learning & Teaching Technologies which was lead by, perhaps, two of the smartest men in the world – Eben Pagan and Wyatt Woodsmall.  There were over 120 highly evolved and high functioning people in the room and cost for attendance was $1,997 for the 5-days… I really want you participate in the little exercise at the bottom to see if you “get it.”

What are the two greatest obstacles to learning?

1. “I know that.”

2. “I disagree.”

The problem with “I know that…”

The instant you hear or read something you’ve heard, what is your first response?  “I know that.” When I tell you, “You need to eat more fruits and veggies,” what is your response?  “I know that.” Your brain filters “new” knowledge with “old” knowledge and your brain instantly shuts down when you detect something you’ve heard before.  Especially when it’s something that could lead to behavioral change! Your mind is designed to protect you against all possible change – especially if it is change that involves leaving your comfort zone.  As you go through this post, my book, my newsletters, your day, your conversations and interactions, the key to life is to keep your mind OPEN.

The problem with “I disagree.”

When you disagree, 80% of the time you are closing your mind to learning anything new. Today, when you disagree, ask yourself if what you’re learning can be useful or beneficial or has any value that you can receive or take to offer others.

What is CHANGE?

Change requires you NOT being YOU. You have to become “NOT YOU.” Say this to yourself now. “If I want to change I need to STOP being ME.” For the most part, your family and friends DO NOT want you to become “not me.” The good news is that you ARE capable of not being you but you need to learn how to apply regular doses of being systematically outrageous.

What does this mean? If you’re not a person who takes risks or prefers to live in your comfort zone then people can say, “You’re not being yourself,” when you do something different.  If you are not very adventurous and decide to back pack through Europe for 35-days, by yourself, your friends will instantly say, “That’s not you!”  Do you want to go through life living up to others expectations of who other want you to be when you have a desire to transform into some one greater or just different?

I offer an alternate solution to living in this prison and within these limitations. I encourage you to consider making gradual decisions in your life so you can become known as someone “crazy” – this is your greatest leverage point in life. If you are not as someone who is “crazy” then no one will ever be surprised by the challenges you accept, the risks you take, the places you go and the dreams you chase.   If you are known as someone who is predictable (and boring if you’re really honest) and want to break free then I encourage you to become systematically outrageous and STOP BEING YOU – it is your greatest leverage point in life and I can promise you that these people have the most fun in life.

How do I plan on being systematically outrageous in 2009?  Here is what I have churning in my brain…

-> I plan on moving to Italy to force myself to learn Italian.

-> I am going to hire a mentor for $25,000 a year to help me with a part of my business I need assistance in.

-> I am going to enter the Mr. Universe Model show in Miami in June so I’ll be ripped and shredded for the summer.

-> I’m going to book meeting with publishers and television producers to pitch my ideas for a T.V. show and hard copy book idea.

-> I signing up for a missions trip in a 3rd world country to get me out of my own little world and become more serving.

-> I am booking a plane ticket to Colorado for a few weeks to learn how to ski.

Do you see what I am forcing to happen?  I’m creating the conditions for INEVITABLE transformation.  See how I’m putting my self in situations that guarantee I will be successful?  All of the examples above force me to throw my hat over the fence and now I have to go get it.

By announcing this publicly to you and my readership of over 50,000 readers, I am making myself accountable and putting my word on the line – I give you permission to follow up with me.

On top of that, I’m living systematically outrageous so no one will be surprised when I announce, one day, I’m going to climb Mount Everest, swim with sharks or build a school in Africa.

You can do exactly what I am doing too, at some level, no matter who you are or the environment you’ve grown up in.

Again, change is “not being me” and your family and friends do NOT want you to change because when you change, all the things your family and friends do and say to control and manipulate you will no longer work! You will no longer be a puppet tied to their strings and they can no longer control you or predict your behavior.

How Change & Learning Are The Same…

Have you ever asked yourself, “What is learning?” There are a number of levels of learning and I’ll share the first three:

Level 0 learning = an insight i.e. something you read or heard which gives you a new perspective. Most people in life never advance beyond Level 0 learning.

Level 1 learning = a new action has taken place i.e. a behavior change or some sort of actionable commitment has taken place.

Level 2 learning = a physical, intellectual or spiritual transformation has taken place i.e. physically, you have gone from skinny to muscular.

If you get one thing from this post:

Learning = Behavioural Change

That means, If your behavior does not change, you did not learn.” Lets apply the example above.

So if you read in my book that eating 15 serving of fruits and veggies will improve your health then you have experienced level 0 learning. It is only a new insight.

Once you begin eating closer to 15 serving of fruits and veggies a day, you are now at level 1 learning because a new action has taken place and their has been some behavior change.

Once your stomach goes from being soft and chubby to flat and firm, you are moving towards level 2 learning because a transformation has taken place and you are transforming from that caterpillar to that butterfly.

Ask yourself, “What area of my life am I sitting at in level 0 learning but I want to take to a level 1?” What is an area in your life that you “know” but have not demonstrated any change in?

I’ll go first.  I want to improve my flexibility with yoga (level 0 learning) so I’m going to sign for 1-1 yoga sessions 3x a week, every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 9am and I’m going to pay the instructor every 30 days in advance to create inevitable success.

That is an example of level 1 learning.  Notice how specific and detailed I was about my applying the insight about yoga improving my flexibility.  I will not have learned anything about the benefit of stretching with yoga unless a behavior change occurs so I have created conditions to guarantee this success.

Now it’s your turn to share. I’ll read your responses and we can assess what level you’re at and if you “get it”

Vince DelMonte

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31 thoughts on “Live Systematically Outrageous!

  1. Vince, I loved the thought of “NOT BEING YOURSELF.” By that, I take it to mean that you have to step outside your comfort zone. I also like you mentioning that we have to put specifics to our ideas. I have been doing that to some extent for the last year, and am working on specifically doing those things that will help me finish meeting my goal of losing nearly 100 pounds. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  2. “This world we live in is just an illusion. A world that springs from a much deeper and far greater reality. And while at times the illusions are indeed ugly, with your physical senses you only see the tip of the iceberg. If you could see the whole, you’d discover that the unpleasantness was only the tiniest piece of a most spectacular puzzle that was created with order, intelligence, and absolute love. You’d see that contrary to appearances, in the grandest scheme of things, nothing is ever lost, no one becomes less, and setbacks are always temporary. And you’d understand that no matter what has happened, everyone lives again, everyone laughs again, and everyone loves again, even more richly than before.”

    The Universe 😉

    So go for it people and don’t let anything stop you!

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  3. Smashing Post Vince, I so want to learn what u learned in LA…Eban’s AWESOME!!!

    But like seriously, this is one of the best articles by you!!! and makes it perfect sense!!!

    I am confident that you’ll be able to accomplish what you have set your intentions for!!!

    2009 will be a BLAST!!! I shall plan my next yr as well!

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  4. VERY GOOD MESSAGE VINCE…..
    REMEMBER…
    CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE.

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  5. Your words are encouraging.The post u sent me about having to leave one’s comfort zone touched my spirit.Thanks

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  6. Hai..Vince..I’m sure your doing great..the way you advice..it’s make my jaw open(hehe=D)..and surprise..that you have great personality in your life and from ‘slim'(I don’t want to describe you skinny, prefer to respect, hehe…) to ‘Superman’..oh gosh..thats really fantastic…emm…I still have long way to go but I will take your advice as ‘my goal’..wow..when I first started to trained..its feel great..than tomorrow my muscle is aching(hehe=D)..I hv my ‘looks’ but still as slim as I am…I know its take time..I believe that Vince..

    No wori..will always not giving up..like you said ‘Train hard’..

    Luv, Naz

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  7. Hi there Vince. Huge Inspiration. Thanks
    I agree with all that you said here and it will take time to learn to follow this.
    I also totally agree with Eric Wong.
    Urzay

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  8. Hey Vince

    Truth is truth , absolute and solid.
    Some very practical steps to make great dreams reality and goals an attainable target.
    I’ve been doing the pre start program for about three weeks to address weaknesses and have already gained 8 lbs and increased muscle size. In other words just started my first steps towards the goals I have in sight.

    Thanks Vince
    Jeff Bousfield

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  9. Great post Vince! I Stepped out of my ‘zone” last year and trained with NZ college of Fitness to become a Personal Trainer — partly because my son loves lifting weights, but also as a self-preservation thing! I want to stay in shape! Now this was CRAZY! I am 57 and had never been an athletic type of person until I started lifting heavy stuff at 50! But- only one person made a comment like”aren’t you getting a bit old for that?” ha ha ! Never say ‘too old”! I want to be learning new things when I am 87! Haven’t quite figured how to reach the masses (of baby boomers) with the fitness message yet, but that’s my next learning curve;-)

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  10. Great post Vince… I have been listening to a fair bit of Eben’s stuff lately and he is definitely a genius in his field and we can learn a lot from him no matter what sort of work we do.

    I like the points made about the transition phase from level 0 to level 2… i am a personal trainer and even I fall in to the trap of “yep, heard that before” or “yeah I know all about that” every now and then but I am determined to and have been working on letting the thoughts enter my mind but then realising no, those thoughts aren’t helping me or rather than say something to interrupt someone, just keep listening.

    i think everyone has something to offer if we do listen.

    Good work Vince, and I hope you move to Italy so you can practice the “bella lingua”.

    All the best for the festive season.

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  11. “How much can you truly know about yourself if you have never been in a fight” The trick is not the goal but how much you learn about yourself whilst facing any obstacles…if you constantly chant what if what if…then fear has got the better of you and progress is stopped.

    Feel the fear and do it anyway…if not to achieve your goal, then just to witness your response to the fear and learn from that response or your reaction to it.

    Live in the NOW where there is no fear!

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  12. Vince, I really liked this post. You are on your way to some powerful changes. Although I think Alfred makes a good point, just don’t spread yourself too thin.

    But bottom line, you are going to change a lot of lives through your leadership. I look forward to learning more from you about these stages of learning.

    Getting out of the comfort zone is key.

    craig

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  13. Hi Vince. Perfect. I am looking forward to seeing your progress for the contests. You inspire, as does this line of thought.

    I have already committed myself to a program that I will be held accountable daily. I am looking forward to it.

    I get it. Doug

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  14. Great post, Vince! While I have some goals for the continued physical transformation of my body, your message also lends itself perfectly to my emotional and spiritual recovery through a 12 Step program.

    My biggest obstacle is fear–mostly fear of myself. So the transformation that I’m working on is to first be =aware= of when fear precludes action–I’m literally paralyzed by my fear. The second step is to go ahead with whatever action my fear would preclude me from taking. The third step is to recognize that I’m still alive, soiled underwear can be washed, and those who love me still love me even though I’ve acted outside of my comfort zone.

    I am committed to attending 12 Step meetings every Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday evenings, to meeting with my sponsor for breakfast every Tuesday morning at 6:30 AM (when I’d MUCH rather be sleeping), and to meeting with my sponsee for breakfast every Thursday morning at 6:30 AM).

    Thanks again for your article!

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  15. Thanks Scott for the kind words… now I’m going to “play” with you for a bit 🙂 Ready? Everyone else reading, what level is Scott at?

    Level 0 learning or level 1 learning?

    By saying you are going to work with a Kin guy and trainer as “often as possible” you are moving towards level 1 but lets drill this down to a more specific behavior change.

    What is your Kinesiologists name?

    What days are you going to see him?

    What time are you going to see him?

    How long are you going to commit to this for?

    Where is his clinic?

    I want you to come back and state the behavior change but with those specifics added to your desired outcome. See how much clear of a picture you are creating?

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  16. Agree 100% with you Vince! Really great post. Interestingly, I recently also made some fairly outrageous pledges (for me) that I am acting on now. Things that take me completely outside my comfort zone. That is where real life transformations and change take place. Wish I was at that conference. Sounds awesome.

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  17. 08DEC15

    VERY NICE IDEAS. JUST REMEMBER ALSO THAT HE WHO EMBRACES TOO MUCH WILL NOT BE ABLE TO EXERT MUCH PRESSURE ON ANY PART.
    EINSTEIN SAID THAT THE BEST WAY TO SUCEED MOST IS TO BE THE GREATEST EXPERT IN THE WORLD ON THE SMALLEST SUBJECT IN THE WORLD.

    ALFRED

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  18. Yes! I couldn’t agree with you more. Change does not happen unless we step far out of our comfort zone.

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  19. Hmm let me put some Bruce Lee quotes here: Well you all heard this one: “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless – like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” This means having an OPEN MIND.
    And this one: “Let an opponent graze your skin and you smash into his flesh; let an opponent smash into your flesh and you fracture his bone; let an opponent fracture your bone and you take his life! Do not be concerned with your escaping safely; lay your life before him!” If you really LOVE and WANT something this should be your approach to get there. This is why Vince went from being skinny to what he is now.
    Of course: “A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.” This is also true. I want to be like a freakin marvel superhero. Will I ever be like that, very probably no 🙂 but it’s a heck of a high goal to aim at 😉 If you want to be a billionaire, will you be one? I don’t know. But you might become a multi millionaire 😉

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  20. I Totally Agree Vince, I recently committed to getting myself back in shape by signing up with Arnel @ http://www.BeyondSixPackAbs.com as well as doing some other research on my own for self improvement. I’m 40 yrs old and have been outta shape for quite awhile now, however after just being in my 3rd week of Training and having Total Commitment in my Goals I can definitely see noticeable changes happening already…..I CAN”T wait to see myself in Feb/March…. Your Videos and Posts are also Very Inspiring as well….Once I complete Arnel’s Program, I am also going to move forward by Committing myself to signing up with your 29 Week Program so I can take this to the NEXT Level, as well….
    I just have to say Thanks !!!! And keep up the Good Work !!!!!

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  21. “I know that”is ingrained in us!!! When we were children, we went to school. The teacher taught the lesson, and we came home to do the homework. At that time we convinced our selves that “I know That” instead of studing harder. We came to reality on Friday after the tests!!!! Whatsmore I now see it in my Grandchildren!!!! This mentality will be very hard to break!!!

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  22. Hey Vince,

    The other day i came across your body weighcircuit and i though to myself i would give it a try. Well, after the workout i couldnt believe how i was feeling sore everywhere. That workout really did kick my butt. I always look foward to checking my e-mail now because everytime i do, i learn something new about muscle building.

    I was the guy who used supplements and all that but after following your free videos, i realize i dont need any of the supplements. They were just doing me more harm than good.

    Thanks Vince. Thanks for opening up my mind to a whole new challenge and something thats worth while.

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  23. I would have to admit, with most things in my life, I’m at level 1, or even level 0. I’ve glimpsed level 2 from time to time, but then fall back again. This is the most important part – the change can be reversed if you fall back into your bad habits (eating wrong, no exercise…..).

    After reading this, I now HAVE TO go and do some exercise. I did some exercise yesterday, so I could argue that I should “take it slow” today, but what good will that do me? So I’ll do a level 1 activity and actually work towards level 2 – the body I’ve always wanted – and know I can get if I actually go for it.

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  24. On Sarah’s comment,

    True, doing those things will not guarantee success.

    But, NOT doing those things or taking any steps WILL guarantee failure.

    Sure, the small biz stats are out there that most fail. But if no one tried, there would be no successes. The stats are that older entrepreneurs do better. But it’s not because they’re older, it’s because they keep trying things until they work.

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  25. Vince, this is one of the MOST motivational pieces I’ve ever read. It makes absolutely perfect sense. I am going to take what I learned here and make my own list for 2009, following your example of setting it up so that I have no choice but to succeed.

    One goal I have in mind is that I want to be sure I am working out to my best advantage using absolutely proper form and to continue improving my shoulders after surgery and rehab. I will find a Kinesiologist or a post rehab trainer and work with him as often as necessary.

    There’s more, but work awaits.

    Buona fortuna che studia italiano!

    Scott

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  26. Hey Vince,

    Thank you for your words. You’ve spoken volumes man. You have a great physical fitness system but you also speak to the soul, and perhaps that is even more important. Best of luck and success to you always.

    H.

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  27. i’ll clarify Sarah… putting myself in these situations does not guarantee success but setting up the CONDITIONS guarantees behavior change (level 1) which leads to transformation (level 2) if clear habits are continued.

    Achieving goals is rarely the case someone fails – it is mostly because the obstacles were not removed or addressed.

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  28. Great post Vince! This speaks volumes to me because I have all of these insights and ideas that I’ve learned from reading hundreds of books over the past couple years. I have made some important changes, but I still find myself stuck in patterns of habit that I no longer desire. It’s like I have all of this knowledge but I need to turn it into widsom through application. Otherwise what good is it? They say “Knowledge is power”, but they should say “APPLIED knowledge is power.” It’s time to make some changes… it’s time to NOT BE ME for a little while and evolve to the next level. That’s what 2009 is about for me… starting with transforming my body! Keep inspiring Vince… you the man!

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  29. ‘where’ not ‘here’ (previous comment) – also, I like your blog!

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  30. “See how I’m putting my self in situations that guarantee I will be successful? ”

    Not necessarily. Whatever the amount of positive thinking, things can still go wrong. Your business mentor may be useless. You could injure yourself doing yoga, a mistake, ruptured back etc.

    80% of businesses fail in the first 3 years – they too have put themselves into situations here change can occur.

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